A heartwarming ‘must-read’ on a hot, lazy Sunday

The web is such a motherlode of golden nuggets of wisdom and inspiration.

Every day, I never fail to discover a piece of work that I feel obliged to share with people who matter. This morning was no exception.

The Facebook status of my friend Grace Magno led me to this endearing blog…

Dealing with the death of a loved one

Posted by Neale Donald Walsch

I have learned of the death of a wonderful woman whose life and work enriched our world, and I want to pass along to you today words that were posted on her website as her Farewell Message, because I believe you will find them deeply inspiring.

Gill is the highly acclaimed author of several best-selling books, including ‘Living Magically’, ‘Stepping Into The Magic’, ‘Pure Bliss’, Wild Love’, ‘Life Is A Gift’ and ‘Conscious Medicine’. A writer and clinical psychologist, Gill trained in metaphysics, shamanism, energy psychology, and energy medicine.

Her family agonized about what to say to all the many thousands of people who love her and follow her work, but then her brother Brian opened her laptop and a letter jumped out that Gill had written to someone grieving a loss. Brian adapted that letter, so that his sister might be able to tell you, in her own words, how she would like you to think about her passing.

Here is Brian’s adaptation of Gill’s note to another, placed in her own first-person voice.

I’m sorry that some of you may be feeling grief and loss. I think the loss of someone we love, is perhaps the hardest challenge that anyone ever has to face, so my heart goes out to you. What I can say is that we can make the experience far worse, or far better, by the way we see it. As I understand it, pain always means that we are not seeing things as our higher self sees them (which is why we feel negative emotion – as a warning sign of this splitting of energy).

If you have been touched by my death then my understanding is that you and I had a contract to part around this time, for all the gifts that it would eventually bring to you – which you will only understand when you look back in years to come. You may have done some workshops with me, and I’m sure you know (in theory) that death is not a tragedy; it is simply the choice to make a transition from one state of consciousness to another. Yes, it would be easier if I had chosen just to retire and no longer respond to emails—but somehow you have to come to terms with the choice I made. For whatever reasons, this lifetime was finished for me.

I am still very much here, but just not embodied any more. Love is an eternal bond, and you only need to think of me with love and I will be there, connecting with you. But you will only be able to sense me when you release the grief, and simply connect with the love. (A friend of mine even co-authored a book with a close friend after her friend’s death, having established close and easy communication with her.)  You might be amazed at how rapidly you can find peace again, once you get your energy flowing and reconnect with your higher self (who sees nothing as bad or wrong).

You can focus on what is wrong or missing – my death – or you can choose to focus on what is positive. I have gone physically but I am absolutely fine, and you are still here – and so many good times lie in store for you still, with many other people to love and be loved by.

If you look for what is positive in life, and things to be grateful for in each day, and choose to think only of happy memories of me, you will begin to release the grief—and then you will begin to attract more positive events and opportunities in your life.

Focus on what you enjoy, who you enjoy being with and what dreams you have for the future. It might take time, but you can do it. In the meantime, there are hundreds of comforting books about the afterlife which show beyond any doubt that life is eternal, and that the only reality is Love.

I wish you all the very best with your journey. It will get easier—and so many gifts lie ahead.

With love and blessings,


4 thoughts on “A heartwarming ‘must-read’ on a hot, lazy Sunday”

  1. Thanks for reposting this on your blog, Dennis. This is exactly the note I would write and even record ahead if I had time to prepare for my own passing. I believe in what the Catholics call Communion of Saints, which is really another phrase for togetherness between those in the other dimension and ourselves. That is why I pray each day for those who have gone on ahead but are lost or in a mist of regret. They on the other hand are redeemed by good deeds they can do for us, the living. Try asking the souls in purgatory to wake you up at an unholy hour. It never fails. Am sure they have fun doing it too. So that’s what it means : we remember them, they help us become our fullest potential. And another thing that resonates with me from this article is that one’s thoughts become one’s things. What you think, will happen. That’s the story of my life.

    1. thanks for the inspiring note, grace.
      and for the reassuring plug for “affirmation” and positivity.

      1. Well, you are one of the most posi-chubibo people I know. Life goes up, comes down but it’s still a great ride because you know that if there aren’t any downs, there can’t be ups. Am happy you’re a friend and a blessing.

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